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mea - 2004-10-02 03:25:01
out yelling..i hate being out yelled. hubby can do that to me, but i've learned not to care about it as much. because really, although it is hurtful, it is part personality and part defense. // explain to him that you need to go to counseling with him that the counselor might better help you to communicate. make it seem like it is your problem and then he might want to take you up on it? i don't know, worked for me..LOL // i'm sorry you are feeling so rotten...but death is really not the only way to peace. acceptence is another way. when we are fighting against things, trying to be what we are not, trying to live up to other peoples' ideas of us, ingesting negativity, feeding the ego, etc we live without peace. which in turn makes us stressed, unhappy, feeling unfulfilled, etc and so forth. peace can be found in acceptence and simple living. i don't know where you are on the spirituality scale, or even if you are interested, but wayne dyer has some wisdom in a few of his books, m. scott peck as well. // here i am running off at the mouth..again!! // yea, i'm back at dland..:-) sorry the other site was hard to navigate, for the amount i was paying, i could only have small access to extras. i couldn't customise my template worth crap!
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Thom - 2004-10-02 09:48:16
It sounds like part of the problem is that you've got so many different things going on right now that you're dissatisfied with. I don't want to be presumptuous in offering advice, but maybe it would be a good idea to concentrate on making one change at a time - whether that would be going to counseling, changing your relationship, looking for a new job, or whatever. In fact, the counseling idea might be the best one; that would probably help you deal with all of the issues. Wish I could give you a big hug.
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jodo - 2004-10-02 13:14:57
*hug* I don't know how much I can help. Thom has a good suggestion, focusing on one thing at a time, and keep a positive attitude on the things that you can change. In regards to your relationship, the key thing I think is that you need to communicate. It doesn't mean out-yelling or out-talking each other. If that means walking away from a conversation to cool down, and talk later, so be it. Just make sure that you can find that moment when both of you can talk with each other and listen to each other. You're hooked, you have to solve the problem together, and it won't happen from running away or not listening. You have to find the right moment, and then listen to each other and decide together what the best solution is: whether it be parting ways or staying together. Good luck, I know you can do it!
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